Soapbox

Working in the long term health field, especially with Alzheimer's patients and their families, has caused me to think through issues that I wouldn't normally face yet. One phrase that I hear often from people who talk to me about my job is this one: "I'd rather be dead that go through that." People have a variety of ways of expressing this, and most often I just kind of smile and nod and move on with the conversation. The longer I hear it, the harder I find repressing my now intense reaction to that statement. If the person isn't a believer, someone who knows the Lord Jesus Christ, I can cut them some slack. But my tolerance is wearing thin with hearing this statement from Christians, so don't be surprised if some day I snap and smack some sense into someone.

As Christians, we should recognize and revel in the sovereignty of God in every aspect of our lives. Our goal should be to bring glory to God, and as we face trials and difficulties in this life we spend much time in learning how to do that. In our growing, we learn to submit to God in all the twists and turns of life's pathways. This is a common theme of our times of fellowship around the Word, of our songs, of our books. If we face death in an early or unnatural setting such as persecution or disease, we exhort one another to glory in the affliction as it brings us and others closer to God and brings to pass His purposes in the world. But, if we live to a senior citizen age category, we suddenly have expectations. Now, we envision that each godly Christian is entitled the perfect death scenario. We want be in our right minds, surrounded by loving family and friends in graceful dignity or otherwise slip away to heaven gently in our sleep. An extended illness we might face, but certainly not one that might steal away our memories or personalities on its way.

While hopes of this kind of an end to life are totally understandable, we must face the reality that this is not always God's plan for each believing Christian. Can we dare to contemplate the sovereignty of God in relation to our plan of death? Could God be glorified by a person and family suffering through something as devastating as Alzheimers? Doesn't He find joy and value even in those people of diminished mental capacity? Wouldn't it be an outstanding testimony to His grace for a person and family to show a joyful submission to this difficult situation?

I've never actually heard someone say, "This may not be my choice, but it is God's choice for me. I reliquish control of even my mind to Him. I can trust Him with even this." I have, though, watched a tiny handful of people live this out. The beauty of their lives truly demonstrated the fact that God is magnified through weakness. They reached people that no one else will ever reach. I have never seen, though, a family unit that felt this way as well.

We live on the edge of a time when a large section of our population will be heading into old age together. Our churches are full of people who, now in their fifties and sixties, will be facing these issues along with their families. My burden is that we must think through these issues before we face them. We must challenge one another to face the adventure of the end of our lives with as much confidence in God as we faced the beginning.

I'll get off the soapbox, now, but, just so you know, there's more where that came from.